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What’s up? This is Mike, a pickup and dating coach in Las Vegas. I just got back from Guadalajara, Mexico. It’s my fourth time in Mexico. I thought I’d make a video because in the last livestream, there were a lot of questions relating to this. If you’ve been watching a lot of my content, I travel a lot and make pickup videos, because that’s my business.
Common Questions About Pickup:
Most of the time, I’m meeting up with clients in Vegas because it is my hometown where I do most of my coaching. But when I’m on vacation, I usually go outside of the country. The reason for this is I’ve already been to 45 out of the 50 states. I’m always trying to get content for my YouTube channel. I end up doing a lot of travel and pickup videos. Commonly, guys will ask me, “Hey Mike! What is the easiest city or easiest country to pick up? You know, I live in the US. It’s harder here. It’s too competitive. Girls are a lot of SJWs, and a lot of feminists tinder girls in the US”. This is a very common question. I would say most of my viewers are from Canada, the US, Western Europe, and Australia. And this post is kind of applicable to you guys.
The short answer is ‘NO’. It’s something you guys probably don’t want to hear, but you should absolutely not go to Third World or easier countries for the sole purpose of doing pickup. If you’re watching videos on how to do pickup, this probably applies to 90% of you guys and those guys that are actually in the process of learning pickup. Now, if you’re in the 10%, you’re just having fun and doing whatever you want, this doesn’t apply to you.
Does this mean I’m saying you shouldn’t travel? No, I don’t mean that. Does this mean when you are traveling, should you not talk to girls at all? No, you totally can. What I’m saying is, you shouldn’t go to easy countries like Thailand and Colombia, for the sole purpose of racking up lays. I’m going to go over point-by-point reasons why you shouldn’t do this. Before I start, some of you guys might be thinking, “Mike, you’re the biggest hypocrite. You’ve been to Colombia, Mexico, Peru, Brazil, Thailand, Vietnam, and you’ve been to all these easy countries. Why are you telling us to do something different than what you’re currently doing?”
Well, the answer is my case scenario is different than yours. I’m already teaching pickup. A lot of what I do has to do with content creation. I’m not going to Thailand to learn how to pickup. Most of the period where I learned to do pickup was in Southern California. You can arguably say it’s one of the most competitive environments, and I would say I started hard and I just got progressively easier.
I didn’t just jump right into Vegas. I had to approach girls that I wasn’t even attracted to. I had to plow sets for pure skill building, even though I had no intentions of closing any of these girls. Because Temecula is a town of just moms. It’s a town of cougars. It’s one hundred thousand people I put in my dues. A lot of my travel is focused on getting views and focused on sort of getting the YouTube algorithm. It’s what people are searching for. It’s not for my pickup learning process.
I was talking to a buddy of mine. We’re discussing how certain cities and certain keywords like Columbia and Thailand blew up. I literally went to Columbia just so I can tag it in my video because I knew a lot of people were searching for that, not because I had to go to Columbia because I needed to go there to get laid. I understand what I’m doing and what you need to do for what you’re trying to accomplish.
Environmental Effect:
Your environment shapes you. Being in a harder environment, forces you to grow. It’s like working out. When you stress your body with more weights, it causes muscle growth. Why are so many people out of shape now compared to way back then? Well, it doesn’t take much time to go to McDonald’s drive-thru. It doesn’t take a lot of work to stay alive in 2020. Being in a competitive environment makes your game better.
I’ll give you an example of this point. Guys that only do day games, who have never done night games, and have never been in that environment, have certain weak points. It’s not because they’re weak, it’s just because they haven’t dealt with a certain stimulus, and therefore they’re lacking in certain abilities to deal with certain situations because they never encounter them.
Most guys who only do day games don’t know how to deal with girls on alcohol. Most guys who only do day games cannot deal with complex group situations. Most guys who only do day games can’t handle complex random logistical issues that come out of nowhere, and that will only occur at 2:00 in the morning in a chaotic club environment. Why is that? It’s because of the environment.
You’ve never been in that situation, so you don’t know how to deal with it. If you’re constantly in an easy environment, it does not force you to grow. Same with companies that are monopolies. It doesn’t force them to innovate. When you have multiple companies that are competing against each other, you get more innovation.
Core skills to build:
A lot of guys, when they go to easier countries or cities, instead of focusing on core skill building, they focus on just pure screening, pure automation, and pure tech. What do I mean by that? Learning to abuse the Tinder algorithm using five or six phones to make the same profiles, automating their right clicks. I mean, tech is important, but that is a side part of pickup. You shouldn’t be 99% spam automation. That shouldn’t be the bread and butter of your game. It reminds me of another dating coach who was in Mexico. He had seven phones, and he sent two hundred messages in a row to some of these girls, broadcasted to three thousand girls at a time, and literally pissing off the entire country.
You don’t want to be that guy who was getting girls left and right. Is that really a pickup? Just brute force spamming girls in a country of 30 million people? That teaches you a lot of the wrong habits and fundamentals. When I go to other countries, I use one Tinder profile, count one Bumble because I have this one thing which is called pride.
The other reason is you start to develop a sense of entitlement and this is really bad. It just fries your neurons. I’ll give you a perfect example. I had a student, he’s in his early 30s and he works in the energy sector in Canada. But when he was 19 or 20, he went to Thailand for six months. This guy got one hundred lays in six months. It was stupid, just a tall white boy in Thailand. When you’re so used to this lays, it’s just messing with your brain. Just the way things respond to stimulus, it’s like watching too much porn.
I’m saying this because when you do that, you’re just overloaded with stimulus. Then when you go back to normal reality, you can’t really function. We’re doing bootcamp. This guy has been working in an office for ten years now. So from 19 or 20, and now he’s thirty-something. He lives kind of a sedentary life. He’s kind of overweight.
We’ve been working out and doing all this, but I’ve never seen a guy be so nit-picky over every girl, like girls that I thought were attractive, but she’s fat, she has wrinkles, girls that were twenty-five. He’d be like, she’s too old for me. I’m just like, you have a beer belly, and you have 35% body fat. How are you this critical with all these other girls? It’s the same thing when guys go to the strip club a lot.
Their neurons are just fried. It’s a very bad situation to be in because I can coach you and I could tell you what to do. But when your brain is fried like that and you are used to a certain standard, a certain sort of baseline when you don’t really have the merits to deserve it. I can’t teach you motivation. A lot of these guys, just don’t want to do anything. They don’t want to put in the work.
The reality is there are not many hot girls that are receptive to practice games. You’re going to sacrifice and do regular sets. If you are this type of guy where you’re a four but you think you deserve tens, there are not enough tens for you to practice. When you do open a ten, there’s such a skill gap or there’s such a gap in value that it’s kind of depressing. It’s like a kid who grew up spoiled. It’s like a kid who grew up with rich parents who gave them everything they wanted. But then, all of a sudden they’re not rich anymore. This kid used to get everything, but he’s not used to putting in any work.
Develop verbal skills:
Another reason is you don’t develop verbal skills in your primary language. If I go to Mexico or Thailand, I’m getting girls, I’m using Google Translate, and it’s not making my English any better. Most guys are not taking the time to learn their second language, they’re not learning Spanish or Thai. I guess the only exception is if you actually decide to stay in that country for a significant amount of time. You actually want to dedicate yourself to learning that language. But when you’re gaming in these other countries, you don’t get the sort of intangible benefits such as the positive side effects of doing pickup in other areas, maybe it’s your career, maybe it’s just doing sales, maybe your general communication skills.
Knowing that you can get girls in your own country and that you’ve worked on yourself enough to have the core competencies to game in your native language then you don’t have to go to a third-world country to use your economic advantage.
Active Facebook group:
Some of these countries like Thailand, have secret Facebook groups and it’s just kind of depressing. These Facebook groups have 30 or 40 thousand girls and the members are locals only. They literally just talk about gringos or westerners that they’ve gone on dates with. Do you really want to be some Western guy who gets ridiculed?
For me, I value pride, I’m a prideful person. Think about it – what’s going to give you more respect? What are the stereotypes? What are attractive dudes?
Look at the 90-day fiance guy, he has a big head and no neck. Is that the guy that you want to be? But I’m just saying, look at the stereotypes of an Asian guy living in the US who’s dating others. It could be Asian and could be other ethnicities, but just having the ability to get whatever race they want. You’re not going to find a fat Asian guy loser dating a hot girl in the US. I’m not trying to pedestalize white girls. Do whatever you want, but the stereotype is a guy like that knows what he’s doing. He’s probably making six figures or probably working out, well travel, well educated, or have some pride. And you want to be that guy.
Some of you guys are going to listen to me, and some are not. I’m okay either way, but understand that what you do is going to have repercussions. What I’d advise you is to get good, make money, have the skills, then do whatever you want. You’ve got to separate the skill-building phase versus your kind of enjoying life. Don’t mix these two.
When you’re in the skill-building phase, do what you got to do, put in the work, get good. Once you’re done learning or you’re okay with the level you’re at, then do whatever you want.
What do you guys think? Do you agree or do you disagree? Leave this in the comment section below. For those of you who don’t want to read this entire blog or watch the entire video, I’m going to leave you with something that might be of value. It’s a map of the world with different countries labeled by difficulty.
From extremely difficult to extremely easy in terms of pickup. You could just use that to measure where you want to go next.
And lastly, just another point to add. I don’t want to make too many pickup videos in Vegas because everybody knows me here. It is kind of refreshing if I go to another country. Nobody knows me and I can’t really get in trouble. It gives me the flexibility to go harder and get more sort of raw in-field footage without repercussions. For example, if I’m in a Vegas club, I have to blur people. Because if I don’t blur them, it might spread, and if the club finds out, I might get into trouble.
But if I go to Thailand once or if I go to Mexico once, I can make an infield video and I can just block that video from that country. I think it allows me to make better, just cooler, better content without having to worry. That’s something most people don’t really think about. When you’re making content on top of the pickup, there are other factors that you have to consider.